Tuesday, 29 September 2015

Sex guilt and spanking in the nineteen fities






It’s been said that the romantic novel has had its day as romance needs obstacles to surmount before couples reach happy ever after. Barriers add an edge to their passion for each other, and that in these days of divorce on demand and where social and racial barriers have largely been removed, there is nothing to write about.


The same thought process could easily apply to sex. If it’s hard to come by or even forbidden, then its all the more desirable and exciting. This brings me round to the nineteen fifties, a time of stifling respectability when nice girls didn’t and young men had to try and keep themselves under control.



 


 

Sex outside marriage was considered to be a sin, and it was not unknown for girls who had strayed to be literally thrown out of their family home. For the poor frustrated young men of the time, not only were real live flesh and blood females off limits to their roving hands and simmering libidos, visual and other stimulus were not easy to get hold of. Yes, metropolitan sophisticates could take a trip to Soho to purchase dubious books and magazines,



 


 

but metropolitan sophisticates are a breed who generally find ways to feed their appetites, unlike say a boy working as a junior clerk in some dreary suburb. As for films and TV, simply forget any question of nudity or sex. Even if a couple had a passionate kiss on screen it was never staged within a bus journey of a bed as that could imply that when we turned our back for a second they were straight into the cunnilingus. 







And this is where spanking comes in. Ever keen to find some way to keep viewers stimulated without falling foul of the censors, what was wrong with film makers showing a girl being given a spot of long overdue discipline across the knee of a clean jawed right thinking man who was only doing it for her own good?



 

 


 

Girls really were spanked in those days, often with their skirts pulled up and nothing but the protection of their knickers, and if the household was strict, these were pulled down as well.



 


That being the case, just as these days its easy for film makers to find a flimsy excuse for a girl to take her top off on camera, there was always some way to fit a smacked bottom into the plot somewhere. 










It's important to get this in context. Skirts were long in those days and although underneath girls were sexualized by the hidden erotica of stockings and suspenders,



 


 

but decently brought up girls ensured they were strictly out of sight and stayed that way.

 

 

Bottoms and thighs were a no go areas to be fantasised about and neither seen nor touched. The most a boy could expect from his girlfriend on a Saturday night was a modest feel of a breast outside the blouse when kissing her goodnight.




 

OK there were exceptions, and some young men found girls who were prepared to go further but they were few and far between.



 


 

 

A lot of boys had never seen their girlfriend’s legs at all, but if circumstances lead to an authority figure giving her a spanking, the man in question got to see the lot, stockings, knickers and suspenders,



 


 

 and if he had taken it to the limit, her bare bottom as well.





 

Film makers understood this all too well and knew exactly how to stir up seething adolescent hormones, so when the hero said to a feisty female “I’ve a damned good mind to put you across my knee and spank you!” a lot more was being implied than simple punishment. Not only was he giving himself the moral right to restrain and have intimate physical contact with her, depending how far he took it he might even get an eyeful of her virgin vagina as well. (No, of course that never actually happened on screen, but the idea was enough on its own to put a tingle in the willy.)   

In the nineteen fifties, spanking was everywhere, in comics for both adults and adolescents, in TV and films; it featured in cartoons,



 


 

and even an advertisement for coffee suggested that wives who bought he wrong brand of coffee should be taken straight across the knee.





 

 

No wonder that the young men of the time had a Pavlovian reaction to just the thought of it. They were constantly on the look out for a quasi legitimate excuse to do to their girlfriend what dad did to their sister,  and the thought of wrestling a wriggling squealing girl across their knee and wondering how much of her they dare expose for punishment had them weeping in their pants.



 


 

Never mind the nineteen fifties being the golden age of spanking, I’ve little doubt it was the golden age of masturbation as  well. (Yeah! Yeah!  I know I’ve contradicted what I  said about the nineteen seventies,  but a girl is entitled to change her mind! This isn't Wikipedia.) 

I had a drink a good while back with an older man I know who has no idea about my blog or my erotic writing, and as subtly as I could I pumped him for information about domestic spanking in those days. He clearly wasn’t keen to talk about it but after a few glasses of wine, I carefully let slip that a boyfriend or two of mine had made up for what my parents hadn’t ever done to me and that frankly both they and I had rather enjoyed it. It was all he needed to hear and gradually he got round to admitting that he had suffered enormous guilt for most of his young life because he had a spanking fetish brought about by all the spanking stimulus from his young days. The problem was that because  spanking scenes and references were presented as a necessary part of the plot and not as an erotic turn on, he thought he was the only person in the world who was aroused by it. Over the years he had manufactured excuses to spank a number of girlfriends,

 

 


but always got away with it by disguising it as a joke, and it was only in later life when people became more open about the sexual tendencies and inclinations that he realised that he was far from alone. 

He doesn’t use the internet, but if he did and googled  “spanking” he would find that there are literally millions of entries which possibly means that when in those up-tight days he took the risk of putting a girl across his knee and spanking her he was part of an erotic vanguard.


I think out of kindness I will send him a copy of Educating Anna when it's re-published!


14 comments:


  1. E

    such a continued outpouring how's a chap to keep (it) up

    so back to the 27th, so inspired, indeed 'an inspired feast of delights'

    i have a need for a muse from time to time that one or other of my 'fans' provide but to find that i, momentarily, became a muse for you, Elizabeth, such a delight, indeed what a hoot, i was going to say honour but let's not run away with ourselves........

    then and now references to the 50s repression etc - all just recalled by your from astute research, it being but history but for one who moved into the swinging 60s from those earlier days i have recollections

    briefly first there was a newspaper cartoon strip (Daily Mirror) that feature Jane and Fritz her naughty dachshund it stemmed from before the 50s and indeed Winston Churchill had dubbed the strip a morale booster - but back to the 50s our heroine managed, in just four to six cells i believe they are called, to accidently lose most of her clothing with invariably Fritz wagging his tail, her panties in his mouth

    i have some pictures, now how to get these to you ?

    for young chaps this indeed was wanking heaven and then into the emancipation of the 60s

    i recall helping one of my then 'fans' to temporally pin her skirt to thigh level before hitting the town, then unpinning on her doorstep afterwards so that her parents would not faint - ah, innocent days and now 'side boobs, are almost the norm

    J

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    1. Thank you, as always. Would be very interested in the pics, try sending them to naughtyliz@outlook.com .

      Will try and visualise you in wanking heaven!

      Liz

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  2. Just a test to see if one can comment directly without Google account etc rigmarole

    J

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  3. Gawd almost as bad having to negotiate a robot/alien obstacle course rigmarole

    J

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  4. It was the late 90's when I began to realize how turned on I was by spanking in the late night movies. It would not be until many years later that I would find out how "flexible" I was. So, unlike you Elizabeth, I was never that interested in the women as fantasy of sexual partner, but rather I wanted to be in their shoes. I wanted a rugged cowboy or a handsome man in suit to prove his masculinity to me in no uncertain terms.

    I spent many a night wanking (not sure if that is gender specific to male in the UK so if there is a corresponding term for the female, let me know) myself silly after particularly steamy scenes.

    I have to catch up on the 60s post, I am sure it is as equally entertaining :)

    James, I am glad you mentioned that to Elizabeth about a way to send her pictures. This is the first time I had a chance to get to here since your email and I see she has already gave you a portal for submissions.

    Off to bed.. I have hundreds of hormone crazed horny teachers that need to be taught a lesson... math that is ;)

    amber

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    1. Hmm I meant of course students...though there are a couple of female teachers entirely to full of themselves who could use a good seeing to ;)

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    2. As a male growing upin from in the fifties I can confirm that I spanked my first girlfriend long before we had sex. The - You need a good spanking - You wouldn't dare - Wouldn't I - scenarios from movies and television were often used instead of sex - and my girlfriend often had a sore bottom the day after. So you are both right, spankings were a kind of substitute for sex allowing boys and girls to be very masculine and submissive, and though the girl always objected and sometimes cried, she did not want it any other way. And later when we started having sex, you could still use the spanking threat to keep her in line - most of the time.

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  5. Hmm! Never really thought about the term wanking as gender specific. True enough it normally applies to what 14 year old boys do at every opportunity, but as a useful shorthand for masturbation I personally apply it to both. But if you go back to a post of mine, Wanking -v-Masturbation you can see I have a lot to say about it. But then I would!

    Liz

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  6. Hmm! Never really thought about the term wanking as gender specific. True enough it normally applies to what 14 year old boys do at every opportunity, but as a useful shorthand for masturbation I personally apply it to both. But if you go back to a post of mine, Wanking -v-Masturbation you can see I have a lot to say about it. But then I would!

    Liz

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  7. E & A

    the word you seek for such female activity is 'frigging'

    neither has taken me up on the 'side boob' issue

    i see you wish to visualise me in action - no, no, no it was er as i said 'other young chaps'

    J

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  8. Grrr

    in using the 'try' word one is anticipating, in the true sense of the word, apologising in advance of expected failure

    so no, total rejection by 'outlook'

    not good - the 'naughty girl's room' beckons and A will assist

    J

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  9. yea, now all OK, a touch in high tech 'it' jargon, of 'fat thumb'

    so, naughty boy....................perseverance does pay off

    J

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  10. nah i take that back, i now see E put in that little rascal of a full stop at the end that was picked up by the cut and pasty thing

    so no, instead naughty girl, confusing a chap

    J

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  11. To remember the fifties you would need to be at least approaching seventy year old. Somehow I don't think this is the case. So what you write is probably based on cliché and received opinion. I was born in 1950 and have a good memory for my experiences. So I can legitimately claim at least some first hand experience. What is written is sort of okay; but too loaded down with what your conjecture of what it must have been like. So you use words like 'Stifling respectability'. A concept I think you got more from the books and theatre of the time rather than a lived experience. Such sources are as about a reliable as any work of fantastic.

    This post is already long enough so I just conclude by saying my recollections are not consistent with your descriptions.

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