Women and erotic fiction

I have noticed that a large number of my Twitter followers are female writers of erotica with only the smallest handful  of men doing the same thing.

But when I think about it, women always have been the most notable producers of erotic literature, quite apart from E. L. James with Fifty Shades of Grey  we have Anais Ninn the doyenne of erotic writing, and of course Anne Desclos , AKA Pauline Reage,  who gave us the story of O.  Apart from these people there is the woman whose names escapes me whose blog Belle de Jour became an erotic novel and there are lots more. Additionally most of the quality newspapers have female journalists who regularly deal with the subject of sexual arousal and of course most of the women’s magazines have regular features on the subject. On the other hand, men’s  magazines have tended to rely on the three B’s (Bare Big Boobs ) to turn on their male readership and such commentary as there is can be summed up as ‘Phwoarre!’

 What you don’t get is any sort of analysis or discussion on the mysteries of sexual arousal. It is almost as if men are afraid of delving into that part of themselves and that they feel that if they confessed to having some kink or fetish that in some way would diminishes them.

There’s no doubt that we women can be as crude as men and enjoy the simple sight of  a delicious torso or a straining  cock,  but we know that there is more to sex than that.

The written or spoken  word can be such an aphrodisiac, stroking sensitive parts of us as effectively as finger tips or lips,

and I think we are more alive to that than men are.

Yes there are times when a simple and satisfying  fuck is all we need,  but so much of the time we want our imaginations to be stimulated as well. We want to be whirled off on a magic carpet of beautiful  arousal  and our bodies and minds taken to places previously new to us.

That means that not only are we more likely to be receptive to erotic literature, but also more likely to want to write it. I think I am right in saying that women don’t merely care how they feel sexually, they want to know why they feel that way sexually. That being the case, when they come to write about sex they have a deeper understanding of it. When a woman writes an erotic book, by its very nature it is designed to arouse the women reading it, but additionally it should help interpret those woman to themselves.

A previous article of mine dealt with the statistical fact that whereas most men described them selves as either straight or gay, a lot of women said that they  were ‘sexually flexible’ , happy to switch at will from heterosexual to  sapphic. That  flexibility says a lot. It suggests an openness  to new sexual experiences and a willingness, if not a hunger, to explore and experiment.

That being the, case not surprising that women have a more deep rooted understanding of their erotic selves and therefore are more able to describe it on the page.

Speaking for myself, I found writing Educating Anna arousing in its own  right. It took me several months during which all my thoughts and concentration was on how this ripe and inquisitive young female felt, living out in  my mind the exciting humiliation of that first spanking,

finding out all the wonderful things she could do with an erection,

and of course discovering that exploring the sweet pleasures of a compliant girl’s body was yet another way to experience erotic pleasure.

I included in the book a mixture of things I had experienced in my own sexual  life and things I would have loved to have happened to me. Yes I masturbated a great deal while writing it,

but if it  hadn’t excited me, then there would have been little chance of it exciting you. But that is the whole point of erotic literature, to lubricate the imagination and open it up to the myriad possibilities of sexual pleasure. As I keep saying, you’ll just have to read it for yourselves when it comes out.